I feel so heartbroken coming to this conclusion that it’s best to end my friendship. I met my friend in 2019 when we were in college and we instantly became sisters. We both changed since then and I’m realizing she’s insufferable.

My friend is in one of those toxic relationships and it’s truly a pain to deal with. She goes from being depressed over something he said/did to then being in a euphoria state of happiness when he does the bare minimum. She doesn’t want me to be around him and made up constant excuses to keep me away from him. One time she was dropping something off to him and tried to keep me locked in her car and parked away from his house. I tried to tell her this is weird and I can just come with her but she convinced me that I need to stay in the car. She then quickly shut the car door and locked it just leaving me there. The one time I met him I must say he’s an odd dude. But I can tell he’s not into her like it’s sooo painful. When I met him she would grab him to engage in cuddles while he doesn’t look like he wants to be touched.

My friend is also a compulsive liar. The other thing she does is lie to our other friend about him. She told her they broke up but no they are still together. She just lied because she didn’t want our friend to know the truth. I can’t really trust what she says like she told me her boyfriend cheated on her with a lesbian girl. Another time she told me she didn’t get her period and realized she’s pregnant. Then two days later she got her period but said she had a miscarriage. I don’t know how any of that makes sense?? She lied about starting nursing school. There’s just so much stuff she says that it’s really hard to believe.

My friend never has money in her account due to her buying useless stuff, always going out, and wasting money on her boyfriend to keep him around. She didn’t even get me a birthday gift or partake financially in my celebration because she only had $30 in her account. The times we go out she tells me her card, Venmo, Apple Pay, bank isn’t working so she can’t pay her half. That leads to me harassing her for weeks to get my money back. But yet she has money to spend on her boyfriend?

My fiancé he’s Korean. I love my fiancé sooo much he’s such a prince. He really treats me like a princess and I’m so lucky to have him. My friend recently told me her cousin is dating a Korean-American guy. She told me that her aunt convinced her cousin to date a Korean guy because it was her dream and the cousin took it from her. I told her that’s weird and said her boyfriend is Jamaican there’s nothing to compare if she’s happy with him.

I guess the icing on the cake that made me explode and be done with her happened this past weekend. In one of my paragraphs I shared she came to my birthday celebration not being able to pay and with no gift. My other friend bought me many cute gifts, a cake, and paid half of my dinner along splitting the cost with my brother. I was so hurt that my friend didn’t do anything for me like it costs nothing to make a card. The other night it was my other friend’s birthday celebration and the friend that did nothing for me tried to buy her dinner (I said we’re splitting the cost for her) and got her gifts. I felt so livid and hurt. Later that night when I was heading home I told her that I’m sad we didn’t exchange birthday gifts. She smiled and said “yeah but we have Christmas” then I said “actually no I’m really hurt I didn’t get anything for my birthday”. She said “well we can exchange gifts this weekend if that makes you happy” I told her that’s not the point. She insisted we can just exchange gifts this weekend if that’s what I want and I kept telling her that’s not the principal. She then said “well I got you an album from a Bts member” and I told her no that’s what I got her last year for her own birthday. She looked so embarrassed and she told her brother (who was also there and a friend of mine as well) of why I’m sad and I was right between them. I said “I’m sad because I don’t know what changed between us we used to always exchange gifts”. I said “I’m sad because I don’t know what changed between us we used to always exchange gifts”. Her brother didn’t say anything regarding what happened. lol probably the best idea not to get involved.

I guess I’m in a rough position I know this friendship isn’t good for me but it pains me to let her go. She grew up in a horrible household where her uncle sexually abused her and her parents didn’t do anything, her parents are undocumented immigrants, it’s just her whole upbringing was a mess. I’m sadden by the life she has with a man she’s not happy with. But at this point I don’t know what else to do. I feel myself growing away from her and it hurts so deeply. I know it’s true you can outgrow your friends but this is really painful.