Back in February it was my birthday and my one friend (I’ll refer to as P) bought me such lovely gifts, a cake, and even took me out for lunch. That same day my brother, my other friend (I’ll refer to as J), and J’s brother met up with us and we all went out to dinner. J out right told everyone “I only have $30 in my account” so she didn’t partake in covering part of my dinner and she came empty handed with no gift. My brother and P covered the cost of my dinner.

J and I always exchange birthday and Christmas gifts so I felt pretty hurt that she didn’t get me anything. I’m not looking for anything grand like I would be fine with a bag of Hershey kisses or just a card. The problem is with J is she spends so much money on her toxic boyfriend like she buys him everything and anything. The other thing is she never has money in her bank account she rips through the money in her account for her boyfriend. The times we go out she never has money and she would try to get me to cover for her food. After a while I realized it’s better to take cash with me and leave my card at home. So by her not buying anything for me and contributing towards my birthday dinner it shouldn’t be a surprise but felt like a low blow.

Last night was P’s birthday and we got together to celebrate her. I had an idea of getting P a birthday cake so I texted J and her brother if they wanted to join me on getting her a cake. J insisted she’ll pay for it and I guess take all the credit. I told her “no it’s a gift from all of us”. J said she’ll pick up the cake and well she never got the cake. J tried to cover for everyone’s dinner and I said we all can pay our own parts and we all shared some of the cost is the birthday girl.

So, then later that night J gave P her birthday gift and I instantly felt so hurt like I wanted to cry. I gave P my birthday gift too and just left it alone like I didn’t bring it up to J in that moment. Later that night when I was heading home I told J that I’m sad we didn’t exchange birthday gifts. She smiled and said “yeah but we have Christmas” then I said “actually no I’m really hurt I didn’t get anything for my birthday”. She said “well we can exchange gifts this weekend if that makes you happy” I told her that’s not the point. She insisted we can just exchange gifts this weekend if that’s what I want and I kept telling her that’s not the principal. She then said “well I got you an album from a Bts member” and I told her no that’s what I got her last year for her own birthday. She looked so embarrassed and sad and told her brother of why I’m sad and I was right between them. I said “I’m sad because I don’t know what changed between us we used to always exchange gifts”. Her brother didn’t say anything regarding what happened. lol probably the best idea not to get involved.

I just feel so hurt that I got nothing from her. Does she not care enough for me to do something special for my birthday? I just don’t if I’m wrong for mentioning this to her? We always exchanged gifts for birthdays and Christmas it was something we always did. So I don’t know why this time I was forgotten.