So we’ve been together for 6 years and living together for 4. We have a good lifestyle, want for nothing, dates, outings, events , we seriously seldom have a weekend off.

My girlfriend has depression and something that affects her mentally around her menstrual cycle. This results in her basically being in a bad form for the week before and of her period. The other time in the month typically varies between good and bad humor.

I try to make her life easy and frictionless to try keep her mood elevated but I think it’s to my own demise. I also suffer pretty badly from anxiety to the point that I cannot think rationally. I need reassurance in everything and even in work, I spend most of my time worried about being fired and working very hard.

We’ve had plenty of struggles in our relationship to date but have been fortunate to work through most of it together. Lately though, I just don’t feel loved in our relationship and that it’s all focused around her wants. I love this girl so much but I hate what our relationship has turned into. We have no intimacy or sexual relationship anymore really, I think it’s been 2 months since we had sex last too. This is something that I had brought up before (in a respectful way) and showed concern about feeling like roommates more than a couple.

I asked her a couple of days ago if she was happy with us and the relationship and she said yes and went on to say that it’s 100% better and that she is feeling more comfortable and that she wants to be more sexual (I had not brought the sex topic up). I’m very confident that she just said this to make me feel something?

I asked her again today if she was “happy with us and the relationship” because I’m mentally weak I guess? She asked “why am I asking again?” I asked why are you answering a question with a question and I didn’t ask the exact same question. She then ignored me (which she does nearly every time I try to text her about our relationship).

I’m honestly so f__king sad dealing with this, I feel like I give her all of my effort and she gives me the bare minimum. Advice is welcomed please team.