I always have fun with my father in law. He’s great! Supportive, chill, low maintenance, down for anything we plan, and generally a good person.

His wife is absolutely insane, overbearing, breaks boundaries, has zero social awareness, curses at us, makes rude comments, acts like she is our mom, etc etc.

I’ve given her like 3 different chances, and she continues to create drama out of nothing. My sweet wife got a message from her dad that they would love to come over for Thanksgiving.

“Just your dad?” - me “No, she wants to come too.” -her “No.” -me “Ok, then you tell them.”

How do I relay this message without being a jerk, even though it seems unavoidable that the truth is I don’t like her. Give me the soft skills answer, like you’re replying to a sensitive email in outlook and your manager is CC’d. 😅