I have been friends with my close friend since 2019. We both have grown so much since then. I’m getting married in January and she’s been with this guy who’s honestly so horrible for her.

Everything she has told me about her boyfriend is horrible. She goes from crying and overthinking the relationship to be all happy in a euphoria level high over him. The stuff she’s told me he’s done isn’t great at all. She would tell me he screams at her to shut the fuck up when they argue, she feels like he doesn’t put enough effort in, she told me he cheated on her with a lesbian girl, she’s also said he has a wondering eye and always giving other girls attention, and she told me she’s very upset that he follows half naked women on instagram. The list goes on with this guy of how bad he is but nothing ever changes for her to leave him.

I know it’s petty but I’m not even inviting him to my wedding in January. From what my friend said her boyfriend has even said nasty comments about Koreans “all looking the same”. My fiancé he’s Korean and I’m not letting some piece of trash like that at my wedding and near people who are so special to me. Besides that, I also have a limit of 60 people for my wedding so he can’t come regardless. When my friend asked if he can come to my wedding I simply told her that’s a limit of people I can have and he can’t attend. She seemed very upset but I’m sure that’s not the end I’ll hear of him coming to my wedding.

My friend never wanted me to meet her boyfriend. She always keeps me far away from him and they have been together for two years. Currently my fiancé is out of the country due to us finishing up a visa and he’ll be home November 1st. That’s something my friend knows and whenever she mentions her boyfriend she says that we all have to go out when my fiancé comes home. I would tell her I don’t mind going out with them like I don’t need my fiancé there. She would then brush it off as we would all have a better time and it would be easier when my fiancé is there. One time we went out to eat she picked up food to drop off to her boyfriend and insisted to me that I need to wait in the car. I told her that’s kinda of weird plus she wanted to park away from his house like down the street. She told me that she feels comfortable with me being in the car then she got out of the car and well she locked me in the car. It’s just weird as hell that I can’t even get my own judgment on this guy because she’s keeping me far away from him.

Friday night she suggested to me and her brother (whom I’m friends with too) that we go out to dinner with her and her boyfriend. It was an absolute train wreck as you might expect. When we saw him all he did was go through his phone and hold little to no conversation. While going through the phone one point he got up to go to the bathroom. Then my friend got all upset that he went to the bathroom and spent so much time on his phone. When he came back the rest of the night wasn’t good at all. He still didn’t talk and when my friend talked it was just directed to having conversation with her brother. So that left me to have to talk to her boyfriend and when I talked to him I noticed yet again my friend was upset. It was so weird she tried to show PDA towards him like she would grab his arm and lean her head on his shoulder then that would result to him looking bothered by her and moving far away from her.

The whole night she looked like was about to break down crying because of him. When I got home I texted her asking if she’s ok after everything that happened. She then responded by saying “oh he was just being weird because of how cool you are” but I think that’s a load of shit. That’s not the reason why he was the way he was the whole night. I don’t even know how to tell her that this guy isn’t a good person? I have tried so many times to help her out of this relationship. But I feel like it feeds into a mentality that is “us against the world”. I just don’t know what else to do to help my friend?