Hey, so I’ve M30 been dating for a year and a half after a divorce. I was in a pretty bad place and jumped on the causal dating train for a while. I’m 30 now and have mostly been in situationships or fleeting connections with people. After my recovery and doing work on myself I realized I want something more intentional and serious. Ive met this person who ticks off most of the boxes except one: Sex. She is F31

I don’t want to sound stupid but I have been a very openly sexual person, I’m bisexual and have mostly been with other promiscuous, sexually experienced people. It’s a really big part of my life and how I connect to someone and what i want more of in my life especially if im decided to choose one person. This person has been with one other person and we’re currently reaching 3 months and have not had sex yet (only foreplay with me doing the work).

I’m really torn and know it’s the only thing holding me back from committing to this fully. I’ve been releasing more details about my past and what means to me and she doesn’t seem phased by it which is great. She has told me she needs to trust someone fully which I completely understand, as do I but, is there too much of a gap in experience to develop a strong sexual relationship?

Does anyone have any experience with this? Has anyone been in the same situation? Have you taken a chance and developed something?

Sorry if this comes off as douchey.