Hi all,

My girlfriend and I have been together for three years now and I love her to bits. However, in the last year or so she has gotten more conscious of her weight. She has always been a bit chubby and it doesn't bother me at all, and I am attracted to her a lot. However, when approaching the idea of sex, over several talks about a low libido, she says she does not feel sexy at her weight now, and thus has a low libido.

I totally understand this, and have dealt with my own body insecurities before. She has expressed anguish about this problem and I've reassured her at every step that I love her and still feel so lucky to have sex with her, and find her very hot.

However, it has a been a while now where she has felt this way, and I don't think she had any plans to lose weight. To reiterate, this is not my problem. I am not bothered if she gains more weight, or loses it. What I am bothered about, is that I'm starting to feel unsatisfied without the sexual aspect of the relationship. We are still intimate, but no sexual aspect. And thus, where she says she has no libido and makes no effort to fix it, I am confused.

With experience from previous relationships, I have told her that sexual contact does mean a lot to me as it makes me feel emotionally and physically close with someone. I know she doesn't owe me sex, and I've told her she doesn't. But, I don't really know how to approach this situation. Does anyone have any experience with a situation like this and may be able to provide a bit of insight?

I'm aware I'm young, and I don't want to damage our relationship by being brash with my thinking or actions.

Thanks in advance