For some background, I met my bf 2 years ago, he was a slim guy then, and he had told me about his weight loss journey and how he was proud of that. When we were dating we’d often get food out, until it became too often and I told him we should stop and have home cooked meals at either my house or his. We moved in together April this year.

I love cooking, so I do the majority of it. We both work 10 hour days, with two days, sometimes only one day, off a week. We’re both tired, but I still make quick meals during the week.

The problem has arised when we moved in as this area has loads of takeout places on uber and other food apps. His previous home at his parents didn’t have any food apps available. This in turn has made him gain weight. He has also signed up for a gym membership and has only been there maybe 3/4 times in 6 months.

We do order sometimes together but only when I am really tired to cook or haven’t been shopping etc.

What really tipped everything was on Friday, we both had McDonald’s as a treat for a long week. Saturday, I had to pop out after work and had a small bowlful of veggies to keep me going. When I came back, he was home and I said what did he want for dinner and he said he ordered himself a kebab for delivery (didn’t ask me if I wanted anything btw). I asked him if he thinks it’s okay to have 2 takeaways in a row, and he just shrugged. Sunday, I worked, he was home, I made dinner.

He asked if he can have more rice, I said no problem. I told him not to scrape a metal spoon against the metal pan (they were an expensive gift and recommend not to use metal utensils). He mocked my voice and I got really annoyed.

Afterwards he said he had some Mcdonalds vouchers for apple pies and asked me if I want a sweet treat. I said yeah let’s do it, but just apple pies.

It was no apple pies. When I moved his car the next morning, I saw a bag from mcdonalds with a burger box and fries. He had another full on meal after I cooked dinner for both of us! It’s not as if I make small portions, I always give him more!

When I questioned why he did that, he said the fact I told him off for using a metal spoon made him not want anymore rice but he was still hungry so he had burgers from mcdonalds.

I told him it’s not good, because they’re not nutritional foods and he has gained weight from all this takeout. It’s gotten bad to the point that some nice shirts I bought him 6 months ago don’t fit him anymore! He also struggles to put socks on!

I don’t know what else to do! I am worried as he has a family history of diabetes and I don’t want him to suffer as well! I know I can’t control what he spends money on, but he isn’t taking his health seriously and I feel like I’m talking to a brick wall with him. What can I do to help this situation??