will try to keep this short.

my high school sweetheart moved across the country to be with me and proposed to me, but things didn’t go as expected and we’ve been in a tough spot. we called off the engagement last night and now i’m just sat wondering if it’s even worth going forward.

pros: we’ve been together 4 years and get along well. he checks most of my boxes for what i’m looking for in a partner, but not all of them. cons: a lot of big issues including our past, past and current alcoholism, guilt tripping/manipulative behaviors from him and more.

however he does say he wants to get better and has been improving himself a lot in the past week, attending a recovery group and staying sober and some other stuff.

that being said i still have my doubts that it is permanent and with school coming up i wonder if another few months of a turbulent relationship is really what i need right now. i don’t feel able to put in the work for a relationship anymore, but he insists we can make this work and to give it one more chance.

the living situation makes things additionally complicated and i’m wondering what my options are. any advice is appreciated