So basically I [20F] am polyamorous, but my partner [21M] is monogamous. We're high school sweethearts and have been living together for about 3 years. We have the perfect relationship on the outside. We are both so deeply and wholeheartedly in love and I can't imagine life without him. He's compromised on a lot of things for me - he understands that I struggle with monogamy so we've agreed that we're both allowed to hook up with other people (we both honestly rarely do this bc we're homebodies and don't really go out anyway). Here's the issue though - I'm only allowed to hook up with women. This has been fine for years (as I am bisexual with a heavy sway towards women), however I've recently met a coworker [27M] who I have a major crush on. We got really drunk/high and ended up dancing and hugging at a recent after work drinks and I can't get him out of my head (he asked me to go home with him but i refused bc I knew my partner wouldnt be okay with it). He came with me to uni the other day and we held hands and talked for hours sober so its gone beyond a drunken mistake now. Look I have no intention of ever breaking up with my partner so any comments saying that will be disregarded. I really want to be monogamous for my partner and would love some outside opinion on this. Is it normal for monogamous people in relationships to get crushes? He's made very clear he doesn't want me hooking up with men and I've double checked this hasn't changed recently. Can I sustain a friendship with my coworker? Could I push for a threesome? - my partner is straight but he's been open to this recently. I havent kissed and have no intention of kissing/hooking up with my coworker without permission from my partner (I may be an asshole but I like to think I'm not a cheater). I would love to open up to my partner about this but I'm scared he'll make me end things and not talk to the coworker anymore - is that what you guys would do if you were my bf in this situation? I would like to continue being friends with my coworker as we have a lot in common and it's nice having a friend at work (even if it means I can't be as close with him as we both want) - how do I suppress my feelings for him so I can stay loyal to my boyfriend?