A little bit of background. We are married for 4 years (together over 5 ) and on the beginning he portrayed himself a totally different person. During those years there was a lot of ups and downs but lately I have been feeling drained.

On the last few months he started to accused me of horrible things for not reason. He works at a bar that I used to frequent before I met him. So he started come home and asking me if I knew some people that goes there. I told him I never met anyone there and I would to there only because I knew the owners. He started to say that he feels on his heart that I fucked people there when I was single and that since I’m not honest about it he now thinks I’m a cheater.

I take cheating very seriously and hurts me to hear this from someone that I respect a lot. I tried to explain him but things just started to get worse.

I noticed that every weekend when he drinks he comes home with a new accusation. Not only about me. He also says that he doesn’t trust his coworkers. That he doesn’t eat at work because he knows they can put something on his food, etc. I told him he had a problem since he says everyone is after him and accuse me of this things.

Those accusations stop but then it start all over again. To the point that if I call him to know what he will be home he will say that I’m asking so I know what time he will be home and that means I’m doing something behind his back. If I’m wearing a lingerie while sleeping it means I had someone over. It hurts me so much!

Last night it got worse. He told me his brother would be crashing during the night because he was traveling and passing by town. I was totally fine with this. I assume that my in law and husband got here at the same time. I get my husband parked my in law was smoking. They came inside together and my husband asked to talk to me in the room. He literally started to abuse me of fuck his brother. I was speechless. It felt like someone stabbed me and I felt sick on my stomach.

I told him he was crazy and that’s not ok what he was saying he was doing. He even asked my phone. I know it can sound dramatic but it hurts a lot that it even crossed his mind. I swear that I never gave any reason for him not trust on me. And on the top of it when I woke up both of them were like talking and laughing. I couldn’t even get out of my room became i was so uncomfortable. I couldn’t even say by to my in law when he left.

Cheating is a such big deal for me. I have stopped being friends with someone that cheated constantly. I would never cheat him or anyone. On the top of not feeling like being myself anymore and I have to walk on my toes around him.

I don’t know what to do or if I can get pass from it. He didn’t apologize at all. He keeps saying he doesn’t trust me and I ask why and he doesn’t give me a reason. I know it’s a him thing problem but I don’t know what to do.

Am I being dramatic?

What’s your thoughts?

Thank you! ❤️‍🩹

Ps. English it’s not my first language so please ignore my grammar and mistakes