My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and everything is going great, and we’ve worked through a lot of our problems in the past. Usually if I communicate my needs well enough, he will do everything he can to meet them. That brings me to this problem. I’ve noticed that when he’s in a bad mood, he uses a very rude tone of voice with me. I’ll say things to try my best to cheer him up, or I need to ask him a question about something, but he’s just very dismissive and rude, as if it’s my fault that he’s having a shitty time or that he’s tired. I’ve found it’s best to just leave him be when he gets like this, but that becomes difficult if we’re in a car or if I’m trying to get things done and need his input. Admittedly, I’m quite sensitive and I’ve started to lose my patience with this. The other night he was speaking to me that way again, and I said, “why are you speaking to me like that?” And he said “I’m just tired,” and I said, “well that’s not my fault, I didn’t even want to stay out late.” Honestly I was quite tried and grumpy as well, I was literally falling asleep at the social event we just got home from, but I didn’t complain or be rude because it was his friend’s birthday party. I just don’t get it- If I’m able to control my tone and not be rude to him when I’m in a bad mood, why isn’t he able to do the same for me? It makes me feel like he doesn’t love me or respect me as much as I do him. How can I communicate with him how this makes me feel, or set boundaries about this, without sounding like I’m asking too much/nagging?