Background. We are both divorced. Dated for 3 years. I have a 11 yo daughter. She has 3 kids ranging from 5 to 15. (two girls, one boy) Her ex is an alcoholic and rarely sees his kids. He's not terrible but not great either.

My GF is avoidantly attached. We used to talk every night on the phone a lot but lately our relationship consists of texts. Less and less. We see each other 3-4 times a week maybe for an hour. We live 4 mins from each other. I feel like at this stage in our relationship we should be spending a lot of time together and my daughter and I often don't get included in things. We didn't spend easter together. My daughter wasn't invited to a wedding that I was and her kids went to. Any time there is an argument she goes away for days sometimes. And gives me the cold shoulder. Last year she invited me into a fantasy football league only to do something else and join another league leaving me out. This year she didn't invite me at all. And I get the feeling its football football football. I feel very ignored. She's flat out told me I'm not your entertainment and responsible for your social life. She'll go to the pool with her kids and not invite us. And for the latest, her kids did a lemonade stand and not once was I told about it. I was just told to come buy some lemonade. First I knew. Daughter wasn't included. Last weekend she took her kids out of town for a "brothers" weekend. I wasn't invited, but she claims no spouse was either. I have never spent a single 24 hour period of time alone with this woman. She doesn't seem to be very future centric. For instance she's in a house that we can't live together in and is worried about the house being sold because she wants to stay there for several years. (she rents) She doesn't talk about marriage. Doesn't talk about our future together. Blames her lack of time on work and being a single mom. Yet, refuses to mesh, or like do dinners together or help each other out. I've flat out asked her. Look if you don't want to date its fine. And she shoots that down and denies it and then will appear to step it up only to have the closeness go away the next day. One friend summed it up as, she acts like a single woman. I agree.

I finally came to the realization today and was like. What am I doing? Where is this going? What is the end game?