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M30, F31 looking to get my friend back after her insecurity in our relationship she asked me to leave her alone. Any suggestions?
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novelty94 is a male age 30
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So years ago I was introduced to a girl through her family(still friends with her dad and stepmom). We started just hanging out and I realized I like this girl. So I asked her out. She told me she isn’t ready and really values our friendship. We just kept hanging out, a few months ago she started showing signs and I asked her out again, we started actually going out and considered ourselves together. Started moving fast and felt good. Couple days after we had sex she said it was moving to fast and opened up to me about past trauma revolving around sex and that it’s sensory overload from past attacks and alcohol used to be a coping method but she’s recovering. I understood and just made a mental note to let things move at her pace. She did tell me she enjoyed it but moving forward it needed to be in small doses. She assured me she knew I had the best of intentions but it’s hard for her right now. I really care for her so I agreed. After our first step back to being just friends recently, we attended a dinner together. I gave her a kiss goodnight and it seemed things were back to normal. Started just seeing each other on the weekends. One day she did ask me if I was truly happy, and doesn’t want to be anyone’s burden. I hugged her and assured she wasn’t, and said I’m happy. After what seemed to be a good weekend: date night, sleeping over and spending Sunday morning with her. She called me hysterically crying last Monday saying she really likes me, can see a future with me but not now. She also said I need you to leave me alone. Last date she shared she hopes she isn’t getting depressed, and she has always been open about her therapy and conversations with her therapist. I’ve listened to her wishes and only sent her a thank you text since she got me invited on a recent trip which she replied with a heart. I have a hard time knowing someone is going through something and it’s even harder when they’re a friend. I know it’s not another guy in the picture, because I’ve known her too long and get updates from her family. I really don’t care if it’s not meant to be just want my friend back.

TLDR a girl I was friends with first wanted to take a step back and be friends again. We started a relationship again but her insecurity of not being enough for me overwhelmed her. And now wants me to leave her alone. I just want to make sure my friend is okay and miss our friendship, but want to be respectful.

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