My boyfriend and I started talking almost 2 years ago. At the beginning I was seeing other people and didn't tell him until he asked. It hurt him. We continued talking and kept dating on and off the past 2 years. He didn't like almost anything I did back then. Anything from talking about business, being social, having friends(girls and guys), going out and doing things, traveling a lot, trying new things. He said it was all bad for me. So I reeled myself in and changed. Some of it was good, some made me exile myself. I had time to think and reflect and change. But I also made a lot of changes for him, then he would leave when it wasn't perfect but then come back. Now he's like I want to be social and I need to learn sales and is doing and learning everything he said he didn't like about me. He hasn't broken up with me in a month. We went out and saw his friends and family a few months ago and I stopped drinking a year ago and someone asked if I was pregnant and I said no and they asked him and he had been drinking and was like no no no kids for me. Nope. Hurt people hurt people is the saying. We both have things we've done and we're trying. There's just been things that he's done that have hurt me, but I feel like I can't speak up without him saying that I was the one who started the entire thing and if I just would have respected him from day one we wouldn't have all these issues. He vents about anything I have done, together or in the past, but if I bring something up, it turns to how he acted that way because of a deeper rooted issue that we've been talking about for 2 years. I don't know what to do. Life is short and I want kids sometime soon. I don't know if this is a time where I take him transforming as a blessing and allow it to blossom or no. I don't know if this is resent or if this is part of growth and change into a new chapter. Please some advice would be nice