We're 23F and 25M, have been together for three years, and I admit that I've been quite pushy about getting engaged for the past 6 months.

I told him when we first got together that I didn't want to date for more than 5 years, I was in this relationship for marriage. He dropped it on me today that he doesn't want to get married any time soon, if ever.

I've not taken this well. We live together in a house we built on his parents property. I feel led on, but if I really love him, this shouldn't be an issue should it? He says that he doesn't feel stable enough for marriage, given our living situation and the fact that he has a year left of his apprenticeship and I have two years left of my degree - we're both working full time and earning a little over $50k AUD each. I understand that part, but my understanding of dating is that you date to find out if you like someone enough to marry them, and you should know that by 3-5 years in. He knows my views.

I'm a planner, he isn't. My timeframe (which he was well aware of) was to get engaged in the next 1-2 years, get married 1-3 years after that, and foster children in our 30s once our careers are more established. He's now saying that he's not sure if he wants to have any children at all.

Please, I need some advice on coming to terms with this and avoiding feeling resentment.