My friend is in a toxic relationship and it’s quite draining. I feel bad for her and I always try to help her but she chooses to stay with this guy. I can be here all day listing off the stuff he’s done to her. It’s really bad but she seems to love this guy.

As for me, I’m engaged to the most amazing man I have ever met. He treats me like a princess and I didn’t know I was capable to experience love like this. Unfortunately, my fiancé had to go back to his home country to renew his visa but he got denied. My whole world was turned upside down. We were stuck doing long distance for a while and sometimes I was lucky enough that he would fly me out to South Korea to see him. But no matter how much I love South Korea our time apart was a constant pain. Luckily, we got approved for the K1 fiancé visa and his interview is next week! Then after that he will come back to the U.S. in October and we’ll get married in January. You know I’m counting down the days lol!

So, I just came back from South Korea last week and I have been feeling emotional of being away from my fiancé. My friend knows how hard this been on me and we went out for lunch today and shopping. My friend has a bad tendency of making everything her and her toxic relationship. Her boyfriend went away for the weekend to see family and all I hear from my friend is that she can’t handle the distance and I’m just rolling my eyes to her. Then she kept mentioning how excited she is to great him at the airport and she starts squealing over it. That hurt me a lot because she kept saying it throughout the course of the day and it started to feel performative.

Then a little while later she was telling me about her cousin who’s dating a Korean-American guy. This is something I remember her mentioning a while ago. She then went on telling me that her aunt (the cousin’s mom) is making her daughter date a Korean guy because she knows how much it is my friend’s dream. My friend continued by saying that being with a Korean man was her dream and that her cousin stole her idea. I didn’t know what to say I just found it so hurtful and weird. Plus her own boyfriend is Jamaican. I told my friend that she ended up with a Jamaican man and there’s no need to think that way over Korean men when she’s in a relationship. But her delusional self continued by saying she had opportunity to be with a Korean man since my fiancés friends are Korean. I corrected her by saying “but you’re the one that wants to be with your boyfriend even if you aren’t always happy with him”.

I wonder was I wrong for not being happy over my friend picking up her boyfriend from the airport? Should I have just faked it and did I look biter? I just feel so hurt like I feel as if she was so performative. It just felt weird with the constant squealing and randomly mentioning it at every chance she had. I also feel so weirded out by the Korean comments she has said about Korean men.