So throughout my life I’ve had two serious relationships that went south, but both had some commonalities. Both girls within a month of dating came up with issues and asked if they could move in with me. One had a five year old and said her aunt was beating her. She also told me she got addicted to meth and just got clean prior to dating me. She was very volatile. Second was about 8 years later and she said her dad was an abusive alcoholic and couldn’t live there anymore. She drank very heavily and it was toxic. Both women didn’t have jobs. The second girl was 28 and had three kids she lost custody of. Cut to today. A very beautiful Costa Rican girl walks up to me in the gym and starts flirting with me. I asked for her number, which was about 3 and a half weeks ago. She’s very religious, comes off as very sweet and genuine, doesn’t drink or smoke, and works at a hospice. Today, I jokingly said “let’s each say a secret that we don’t really tell many people”. She got kind of quite and weird and said that she just got evicted from her apartment and this guy she moved in with for a bit after her divorce, which was 3 years ago and she didn’t work during the marriage so she wasn’t financially in a good spot, said she could come stay with him again so she’s living with this guy. She reassures me that he hasn’t made a move and might be gay, but he did have GF at one point. All of her family is still in Costa Rica so she doesn’t really have anyone to help. We only talked about it for around 10 minutes and she never asked to move in with me. It does bother me a bit that she’s living with this guy, but it’s not really that big of a deal. It’s still early on and she doesn’t owe me anything. Should I just completely stay away from this entire situation or from the topic of us living together so soon? I don’t know if this is a common occurrence with other people or I just find myself in the same situations a lot. I also don’t want her I also don’t want her to feel like she has no other choice but to move back to Costa Rica when I do feel like we have a good connection.