Like the title says, my girlfriend has been yelling at me a lot recently and in my opinion dismissing and invalidating my feelings. For a little backstory, we broke up 3 weeks ago because I found out she was lying to me about something. Initially, I wanted nothing to do with her, but I realized that this is something I could forgive her for so I decided to make the effort. Since we’ve gotten back together, it’s felt less and less like she actually cares about me. She threatens to break up with me all the time and she’s stopped doing a lot of the stuff she used to do and she yells at me a lot whenever we try to talk about anything. Like last night for example I brought up how I felt like she might just be using me for my body because of a comment someone told me she made to them before along with previous thoughts and concerns I’ve had, and I brought it up in a very nice way and I wasn’t accusatory and i thoroughly explained why. Her initial response was to get mad at me and tell me she can’t believe I said that, and then 5 minutes after that she started accusing me of using her for her body, and then a couple minutes after that she was yelling at me and cussing me out until I cried, and then continued to do so after I was crying for another 20 seconds. After continuing to yell at me, she stoped and told me to stop crying for another 20 seconds before making any attempt to console me. When she did this all I could think about was the things she’d told me her domestic abuser parents did to her (yell at her till she cried, then continue to yell). They also did much worse stuff to her than that, but honestly that scares me a little because I’m worried she might get to that level one day if she keeps going like this. She never even apologized until I asked her to. On one hand I can see why she’s upset because I do bring this stuff up a lot (multiple times a day honestly) and I know it can be a lot but the reason I keep bringing it up is because I don’t feel heard or cared for. All she tells me when I say that is that she does listen to me and she does care for me but that I’m just pushing her away by bringing stuff up so much. I’m just curious; is this is really my fault or if it’s more so hers or if it’s both of our faults?