Two years ago I injured myself in a work accident.

I have now mobility loss and chronic pain.

I do my best to not affect my family. But it’s not perfect.

I use a wheelchair for long run and try to help the best I can around the house.

In the last year, my wife told me:

• That i’m useless numerous times.

• That I can’t do things like I used to.

• That she find this boring that I’m now handicapped.

When I tell her that I don’t like the way she talks to me, she reply with “well you have a therapist and I don’t”, “I need to talk about this to someone and you’re the only one listening” and she refuses to see a therapist even if I told her numerous times that she can. That I will take care of the kids and etc.

I’m back to school, I’m at week two. Yesterday she told me that she hate me a little more everyday, since I cannot help as much as before with the chores around the house (I cook, do the dishes, fix stuff around the house and help with things) but it’s like she doesn’t see it.

Today she told me “I’m now at the point where I should me alone but I can’t afford it”

I try to not think about it, but it start being hard on me…

First thing is, can this be considered as abuse towards me or I’m gaslighting myself?

Thanks…