This has been something that has bothered me since day 1. The start of our relationship was kind of messy, he was with her for a year, left her abruptly over text and 4 days later he asked me out. We started dating not too long after that. I wasn't aware of that until about a month into dating him. Of course after I found that out I started to be bothered by little things, I found out his mom was still talking to her on a personal friendship basis. I also found a lot of her belongings and that really did hurt me to a personal level but he said he had just forgotten they were there. I let him know that made me feel really uncomfortable and just not valued, he told me that his ex still has some of his belongings and his stepdads jacket, and that's the only reason that his mom still talks to him. Me and my fiance have been together for about 6 months now and recently engaged, his mom sent me a friend request on FB and ofc I accepted it. His mom is still friends with his ex and her family, and it makes me deeply uncomfortable. I know for a fact at the beginning of our relationship his ex was sending screenshots of my profile to his mom, basically saying I was a homewrecker when I had no idea he had left a relationship so quickly :/. He said that she doesnt talk to her anymore and that the only reason theyre still "friends" is because she STILL has his belongings. And thats just not okay with me. I dont understand why no one has put their foot down and said hey, you need to give his stuff back. It feels like they're egging her on and i know she hasnt moved on. She found my tiktok and spotify somehow, i had to block her on everything. The amount of times she was checking my socials was not normal, and my socials arent easy to find, Im a very privare person. Honestly I'm really struggling to be okay. It just doesn't sit right with me and I have a bad gut feeling about it. His mom still has pictures of her up in her house and he says nothing. But I don't wanna be unrational or seem like I'm thinking out of jealousy because honestly I do feel crazy for thinking this way. I've pushed those feelings back for months about it bothering me. But now I don't think I'll be able to move past it, and it'll always be a problem for me, but I don't know how to resolve it.