Hello all, I’m a 24 M, I’ve been talking with 23 F for a little over 6 months now. Right now it’s just FaceTime/text/snap as I live a couple of states away and we both work a lot. To spare details and stay kinda anon, the lady I’ve been talking with has a best guy friend whom she has known for years. He is good friends with her brother and honestly most of the family as he attends dinners and regularly goes to her parents house. Unfortunately, a couple of months ago he told her he was “in love with her”. She stopped talking to him for like maybe a couple of weeks but ultimately forgave him? I’m considering breaking things off because of this guy. I do not perceive him as a “threat” but they hang out often and they do drink together and he has (I’m like 90% sure) slept over before. I’ve talked to her about this before but tbh she seems oblivious to what I perceive as the dangers of that friendship. She’s told him that they’re only going to be friends but I don’t think that his feelings are going to go away and I’ll be upset if something happens to her because he can’t control his feelings. We have explicitly shared our feelings for eachother and plan on meeting irl before the end of the year. Our values and how we see our futures align (i.e. careers, kids, finances) and we just really click. We FaceTime and talk on the phone everyday multiple times a day. I’d feel bad throwing this away but I also don’t want to worry/be upset any time i hear about her guy bestfriend, ex boyfriend, or ex-fiancé (don’t know why that’s still the title). I feel like i can trust her and her action, but I don’t trust these guys and I know I’ll never know her true feelings. Am I looking too far into this ?

Is it bad that I’m thinking of breaking things off bc of a best guy friend?

(By no means am I saying I am perfect but I limit talks of other women unless I am asked specifically. I also don’t have any lady friends besides co-workers. No I am not gonna ask her to cut her friend off she’s known wayyy longer than me.)

TLDR: guy bestfriend’s relationship with the woman I am speaking with makes me quite uncomfortable