I met my fiancé two years ago and for us it’s just instant love. He’s Korean and I’m white. So we do have a bit of cultural differences. Besides that the only real problem we have is that my fiancé had to go back to South Korea to renew a visa and sadly he got denied. So we proceeded with the K1 fiancé visa. We got approved and his interview is September 12th. Then he’ll come back to New York in October.

It’s been hard with the long distance. But luckily I got to visit him in Korea for two and a half weeks. On a side note his parents are very wealthy. I love and respect his parents but they get under my skin. During this trip my father in law made comments about my diet and how I need to eat healthier. We only shared meals together a few times and when we do we all eat the same thing but I just eat in a smaller portion. I’m 4’11 and weigh 118 pounds but I was recently diagnosed with high blood pressure. My dad has it so it’s part of my sucky genetics. But my father in law doesn’t get the part that it’s genetics and he’s been making rude comments this whole time I’m here.

There’s been other things he’s said that got under my skin but I know you all don’t have time to hear it lol. During lunch he told me that he’s so lucky that his son found me so he has easy access to the U.S. . I was confused and asked him what he meant and he said “it’s so hard to get into the U.S. but now because of you he has full access into the U.S.”. I took that as his father sees me as an easy way for his son to get a green card. It took a lot of me to not start crying. My father in law also went on a rant that I need to learn Korean and that he expects his grandchild to know Korean. Which I understand it’s important but my fiancé and I are not there yet. He also made rude comments about how my fiancé changed his major from aviation to data science. I’ve been hearing those comments since last December. It’s like they never tell his son any of this but they tell me. He then again went off by saying how much money they lost due to the career change. I told him “I get that you lost money and I won’t understand that but I just want your son to do whatever makes him happy”.

I just don’t know if I’m being used for a green card. The love I have for my fiancé is so unconditional and I know how much he loves me. I can feel the love and I never felt love like that before. But I’m curious what do yall think? Should I tell my fiancé what his dad said about how he know has easy access to the U.S. because of me?