I 21F have been seeing someone 24M for a few weeks now. Although we've only been dating a few weeks, I've known him for almost 7 years. For context, we used to be good friends through an ex, but I stopped hanging out with him when we broke up a few years ago and we've recently reconnected. At the time I kind of got the vibe he had feelings for me but obviously nothing happened as I was in a relationship. We were both heavily involved in a lot of drugs and illegal shit but both got out and bettered ourselves. I've been clean 5 years now and him almost 4. We came from the same fucked up youth and got out, something I really value as nobody else truly gets me in that way.

Even back then he was always really good to me, my relationship at the time was toxic and mutually abusive and he would always step in to protect me and make sure I was safe in every situation. Which honestly says a lot because on drugs like that you're generally only looking out for #1. Now, he's such a gentleman. Always getting the car door and every door for me, getting my chair, asking me how I'm feeling or if I need anything, dropping everything if I need something, not doing anything else until he knows I've gotten home safe etc, even staying up with me when I can't sleep and tucking me in when I eventually pass out and more. I've never had a partner this considerate and sweet and I'm not sure if it's clouding my judgment.

In everyday life he's very gentle with me, but as soon as we start to have sex it's like a completely different person. Idk if he has some type of control fetish, I could be into that. The sex itself is actually pretty amazing, but something really scary happened and I'm not sure how to deal with it. He started choking me, I thought okay cool that's hot - whatever. But he kept squeezing harder until I literally could not breathe, after like 15 seconds I started to panic, hitting his arm hard out of survival instinct trying to get him to let go. He eventually let go but as he did, he said "it's okay you'll just pass out and come back in a few minutes" like fully serious as if I'm just supposed to be fine with that.

This seriously disturbed me and although he didn't see it, I went to the washroom after and literally cried a little bit because I was so taken aback. I'm down for rough sex but this was actually terrifying and his comment made me believe it was fully intentional and he was trying to knock me out.

Is this something I should try bringing up not in the heat of the moment and have a conversation about it where hopefully he will understand not to do it again? There's been other stuff he tried that I said no to and he fully respected it so I feel like I should give the same chance with this? Or is this a just pack your shit and run type of moment? I had been very into most of it up to that point idk if he got the wrong message? If I didn't feel like I know him and his good nature this wouldn't be a question; but he id honestly such a good guy in every other way that I feel like I owe him the benefit of the doubt just once.

TLDR; started dating old friend, great guy. Rough sex went way too far, do I talk it through and give a chance or gtfo???