Hello everybody, I’m (M35)just going to vent.

My wife (F30) (been together since July last year ) and I moved countries, she got a job and I followed… we’re both in the hospitality industry. We recently got married last November as well. Of course things change when we move countries , new jobs , new people , and marriage … as for a couple of months … my libido hasn’t been up to par with my wife’s … but I also suffer from GAD, Health anxiety, GERD, etc . I’ve seen a doctor and I’m doing better. We both work a lot , especially her, since a she’s got a management position. We’ve been bickering quite a bit (more her towards me ) but nothing severe … or so I thought. Just met her mom, she visited us and is super lovely (long story why he hadn’t met )… got our vacation planes tickets two days which was an other ordeal but at alas .. it happened and we are looking forwards to it.

Yesterday she sent me an unsettling text … (she exploded and got mad out of nowhere the night before ) … she apologized , but also told me she felt bad … and .. that she wasn’t been honest with herself hence not being completely honest with me and that we needed to talk. Then she went on to say that it probably can be fixed , and would like to and she loves me.

Obviously my anxiety shot and started thinking of many scenarios.

It’s night time and we get home. 

Long story short : a combination of resentment because the lack / space Gaps of sex , time spent with co worker, and for some reason some ex reaching out to me… she told me she’s started to develop feelings for a coworker … nothing “romantic” has happened but between them it’s mutual … she feels bad about it and would like to try and “fix” things with me .. but she needed to tell me essentially.

I’m frustrated , our relationship is amazing except for not that much sex … it really is. Also we were in a long distance relationship before moving in here … so we would see each other once every two months , for 3-4 days … of course we fucked like animals … now we live together , work 6 days a week , are tired , life happens … of course it’ll change.

I’m upset, we have our vacation coming up in Sept… the dude that’s she’s developed feelings for is in vacation for two months , she thought the feelings would go away as he’s gone … but they haven’t. Wtf.

I don’t know what to do with all this info. She said she wants to try therapy, and she’s seems authentically upset as well .. but says she can’t help her feelings. She’s still in love with me but I guess there’s a little something going on , on the side .. emotionally.

Any advice ? I feel like you pull this shit when you’re messing around or even dating , but married ??? I’m a mess. L