Hello all,

TLDR: My fiancé and I have been having issues recently.

I am coming to this reddit as I do not know what to do. The past couple months have been ups and downs with my fiancé. I do not know how to word this or anything, so I am just going off of what my brain is telling me.

A month ago, we moved into a house from her parents and my parents house. That came with a lot of stresses for both of us. The main reason we moved was so I could be closer to work, which is nice, and to also be independent from my parents. She moved in with me.

When we first moved in, she had a job where she would stay at her workplace during the week, and come over on the weekends. The only thing I would have to do is to go get her, as she doesn't have her drivers license. However, she got really burnt out of working at that place (shes was working there since she turned 14). Around a week later after this agreement, she was to the point where she was about to break down. She talked to her boss, which was very supportive to her (from my understanding), and she stepped back from that workplace.

Ever since then, she has been at my house with me, while I work. I work 24 hour shifts as a EMT, so I am away for 1/3 of my life. With that being said, she just stays at home and does not work right now. She wants to go back to school to get some sort of certification that can get her a job.

We recently had a talk about the financial situation. I promised her mother, when she moved into my house, that I would be able to support her until she finds a job, which I do not have a problem with. I am able to pay all the bills with my salary as a EMT.

To the main point of asking for advice though. It just seems that I do everything around the house.. doing dishes 24/7, even though she made the mess. That is just one of the numerous things I do around the house without assistance, while she sits on the couch on her phone. She does do some stuff, like laundry, but most of the other stuff I do. While I am at work, I ask her to do stuff, but come home to find the place a mess. We have been in this house for a month, and she still has stuff in the living room that she needs to put away, but she can never "find the motivation to do it."

As well, she likes to play with my emotions, which I find just rude. We have had this talk about it before, but it seems that it is out the window. She will appear to be sad, so that I give her attention. There are some times that I will ask her if she is alright, and she will say "she's fine." but deep down, I know something is bothering her. I don't know what to do in this situation.

Recently, she has been getting upset when I say no to getting a dog. Right now, we do not have anything up and ready for a dog. When we first moved in, we got a kitten, which she loves deeply, but she wants to keep getting animals. At least a couple times a week, she tells me that she wants to get a dog, and when I say no, she gets "upset." Like I said before, we don't have the space for 2 cats and a dog.

Another thing she wants is a baby. I am only 21 years old, and she is 19, almost turning 20. We are in no shape ready for a baby in any way shape or form. Like the dog situation, numerous times a week, she will say she wants a baby, and when I say no, she gets upset. I am not ready to become a father quite yet.

I am a pretty very easy going guy, and I have told her this before. I need my naps when I get home from work in the morning. Where I work, it is almost likely we will be up all night running 911 calls, so I am drained when I come home from work in the morning. Most of the time, she will let me sleep for max of an hour and a half, before she

Finally, there are times that I am too tired to do "extra curricular activities" and do not feel like it. She gets really upset/mad when I do not want to do extra curricular activities, and will make me feel bad and then I will do it.

Overall, I want to stay with this girl. She has been there for me every time, but these are just the things that get under my skin and make me feel unappreciated.

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions on how to fix all of this. I know it is a mess of a post, but like I said, I am writing it from my brain.

Thank you all and have a great day.