So I am getting ready for my final year of my bachelor's so I'm starting to look at/apply to grad schools. I live in Michigan with my parents, and my boyfriend lives in Iowa. My boyfriend wants me to move to Iowa (yes, I know; don't move in with boyfriends unless I'm married to them but I believe in living with your partner before engagement/marriage because what if they aren't the best to live with?). My parents, however, think it's too far, about 9 hours, and they think 1, I should live close by in case "something happens", and 2, I should choose where I want to go, not base it on my boyfriend.

While I agree with their logic, I don't know where I want to go. Obviously, I want to base it off of where I'm accepted into, but I've never had a dream school or a dream place that I want to stay in. I know I hate cold weather unless I have access to heat, and while I love being warm, I hate hot places, so not really much to work with except I won't go to Florida, other southern states that are super hot, etc. (Alaska could be on the table even though I've heard it's really cold, but the no-sunlight thing sounds intriguing). So my thing is, I don't know what to do, and I think everyone wants to choose based on their needs. my parents saying "something happens" was my mom saying, "what if something happens to your dad, what if you need someone to watch your kids (more like they just want to see their grandkids and not thinking about if I want kids or not), etc." They have a small thing about something happening to me, but it's more about them. My boyfriend has friends and family in his hometown and he wants to stay in his hometown, but doesn't consider that even though I don't have a whole lot of family and friends to talk to, I still have that where I am. He says he would be okay with moving, but he always talks about me moving to Iowa.

Normally, it would just be a boyfriend conflict, but I have him and my parents/family (my cousin also says stuff as well but we're close) so it's a major confliction and I have no idea how to figure that out because again, I don't know where I want to go for school. How do I even figure this out?