My wife was unfaithful to me last year. She did it with her best friend, her excuse was that she was drunk and her friend doesn't understand boundaries. But even after all that I forgave her. But she insists on staying friends with the woman she cheated on me with. I kept explaining my dissapointement but she insists and keeps being friends with the other woman.

So I wanted to level the playing field,i was mad, hurt and I just wanted her to know how hurt I felt. So I cheated on her once. I deeply regretted it and hid it. She doesn't know, making someone feel the pain I felt is horrible.

Should I take this to the grave or talk to her? We're in a really good place now and I would be destroying everything we built. Years of effort. I just wanted to get this off my chest.