We have just celebrated our 3-month anniversary, but 1 out of those 3 months I was away for work. Since returning 2 weeks ago, I haven't been as happy as before. My partner has been sick for a month without a diagnosis, and the doctors have been dismissive, despite his discomfort (he was hospitalised for a night and hooked to an ECG machine; at one stage there was a warning and I thought he had a heart attack.... he was in severe pain).

I believe his physical discomfort is contributing to his negative mood, leading to many arguments between us. We seem to fight every day, usually because he says or does something that upsets me, and when I bring it up, he becomes defensive and lashes out. I've tried my best to communicate calmly and not to make it sound like turned against him, but last night we had another fight again because he said something to me and I told him that I don't like to be told of that......... eventually we hugged and he told me that things like that triggers him and he gets very defensive.

My friend who has met him urges me to break up with him, because she thinks he is on a lower level than I am in terms of social ladder. What I like about him is that he is very affectionate (well, at the back of my head I think he might be like this just because he knows that's what I like), and if he wants, his job is high paying (doubles my pay); what I don't like about him is that he is extremely sensitive (mentally and physically), not have any savings, has addiction to gambling.

In terms of gambling, is that in general he has no sense of managing money properly. He did trading with leverage and eventually lost all his money. Not casino. Because he has no money, I lend him a few hundred, then instead of using the money on essentials (bills, food, etc), he bought supplements cz he was in the rabbit hole of believing supplements can cure his problem..... he then asked me for money again when he's out and said specifically not to give him any extra.....

He's working at the moment and will be paid late next month. He asked me that if I can manage his money for him so he doesn't waste it.....

Also I recognise that sometimes he tries to put me down. For example yesterday he made a comment that his on a higher class than I am because his job is more professional. However in reality he's staying in my house (I own it) and I've been paying for his food (although he keeps saying that he will pay me back).

I'm considering breaking up with him because it essentially comes down to whether I'm happy. At the moment, I'm not. But there's a small part of me that still has hopes for this relationship to work out ;( . In addition, him being sick, I feel breaking up is just such a bad move and a terrible thing to do.....