so long story short i was going through my girlfriends phone to send myself pictures that we had taken on trip about a month and a half ago, while i was doing that i stumbled upon nudes from another guy and that prompted me to look through her conversation and confirmed showing meet up details and them talking afterwards. i flipped out on her and she just was silent, she didn’t have much to say but i could tell she was ashamed of herself. we talked about some of it and she admitted to me that it was eating her up inside. i know i can’t continue like this and i told her i need space and if we ever did get back together there is so much work to be done. i’m honestly just scared because i love her so much and it scares me that it’s more sadness than anger because that makes me feel like i have no boundaries with her. it makes me scared that i love her so much that i’d let it happen again. i know she’s sorry and do genuinely believe she will change but i just can’t shake the fact im not being fair to myself considering be with her. am i an idiot for still loving her ?