I've been with my wife for and 15 years, married for 5 with a boy and girl 3 year old twins. Today is our children's birthday. She started to cut the cake and asked me chocolate or vanilla. I've never ate chocolate. I'm sure we've talked about how I always pick vanilla because I don't like chocolate. Then I started thinking, she still asks me what I want on my cheeseburger, she still asks me ketchup or ranch, she doesn't know what my political beliefs are, she doesn't know what my values are. Am I missing something here? It seems to me like I'd have to deliberately make a point to not know any of these things after spending 15 years in the general area of someone. We've literally be living together most of that time. It's not like my preferences are constantly changing, once in a while I mix it up with the food preferences I mean but I'm talking like 1 out of 30 times I'll have ranch on my fries or something.