I met my now ex over a year ago and we hit it off immediately. Before long, I was infatuated with her. She was perfect, she was someone I could see myself with forever, that's what i wanted. I was so deeply in love that I couldnt, and still can'y imagine being in a different relationship.

My otherwise calm world was rocked early this year when she thought she didn't want to date men. While it sucked, i understood and supported her but we ultimately broke up. I had no hard feelings for her, she likes who she likes, i was just destroyed inside that it wasn't me.

This past month we reconnected as friends. Mostly talking about therapy, work/college, etc, until recently. I decided to start applying for jobs 13 hours away, closer to family, and told her. While i have no offers yet, i am very hopeful i will move by August but now there's a wrench in my plans.

My ex admitted that she wants to get back together. She was struggling with her mental health when we broke up but she says she's adjusted now. I'm stuck choosing between the person i love or my family.

I've already talked to my current boss about my plan to move back, he understood on the basis it is to be close to family. I alreadly closed that door and am worried about telling him that i might be staying. While he would be happy about that, i feel it would screw the relationship at work.

Lastly, my family is so excited i want to move back. I only see them 2-3x per year and we all struggle with the distance.

Advice?