My wife and i have been married 20 years and are beginning the process of divorce. We are extremely amicable and neither of us have any negativity between us and I do not expect any sort or conflict through this process. We had separated once before a few years ago but have it another try. We have two daughters, one 18 and one 16. My wife is having the 16 year old move in with her and the 18 year old is moving in with me. We will continue to have regular family dinners a couple times a month and do things together to keep the family dynamic strong. Both of our girls are good with this next step and plan and are excited about a new phase. That being said, I want to give my 18 year old a positive experience to help her grow more independent as she continues through college classes and learns what it’s like to be an adult. How can I structure this or plan things so that she feels respected and independent as we go without transitioning completely from ‘dad’ to ‘buddy’? We have a close relationship and I don’t want to lose that but I also want her to be able to grow and mature.