How does one say goodbye to someone they supposedly love. For contacts my girlfriend is 30 years old I am 29. We have been best friends since eighth grade so going on a 16 year friendship and a five-year relationship. We have had plenty issues in the past. I have done my part she has done my part. in the very beginning, she cheated on me with her. This was initially during the very beginning this was initially during the talking stage. I kind of gave her a free pass over this, since I had no leeway, did cause a huge thorn in our relationship fast forward five years, she does it again (same guy), and the ultimate form of self destruction and self sabotage. I keep telling her that it’s time to move on. We need to figure this out that she needs to move out. She won’t cut the friend that enabled her to do the infidelity. She’s currently out right now at a surprise birthday party that her mom threw her, which is no big deal. If only I knew that she had one when she was surprised I did not get a phone call or text saying that she has a party going nor invite, yes it did hurt a little bit. it makes me feel like she’s hiding something since I can’t get the basic form of communication in reality. In my opinion I do not believe is asking for much. I feel like I’m never taken seriously and I voice my own opinions and a very healthy way in a very calm collective manner it’s somehow turns into her freaking out and victimizing herself, saying how she can never do anything, right. At this point, I already understand that the relationship is basically over and back to my main question is how do you walk away? How do you turn around and don’t look back at the life that you created and the person that you wanted to be with.

Also, she is very verbally abusive/cuss, yell and punching the wall, couches. Just about anything near her.