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Am I (21m) being used for dates by (20f)?
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So I (21m) was out and got this girls’ (20f) number and we started texting and like 2 days later we made plans to go out for food at PF CHANGS. The chemistry was really good and we left out of the restaurant and went into the mall which is right next the the place and we walked around being touchy. Like I’d put my hand around her waist and stuff like that touch her hands and her the same like sometimes we would look at clothes and she would play with my hair and lean against my shoulder. So after we left the mall we were walking out and I pulled her in to kiss her and me made out on my car. Mind y’all it was kinda late like 9, and malls usually close around that time so it was pretty dead and we made out for like 30 seconds outside then we sat in my car taking and kissing. I mean there was neck kissing, affectionate cheek kissing, tongue like all that. Also important info is that her mom would constantly check up on her calling and texting her to make sure she’s okay, and she did mention that her mom was like super over protective and very kinda traditional. Apparently she had asked her mom if she could go in the date in the first place to which her mom agreed but made her drive there cause she didn’t want her daughter in the car with a stranger, perfectly understandable. Anyway while we were kissing she smiled and pulled back and said I feel really comfortable with you but I don’t have sex on the first date. Which I do understand but as most guys was a little disappointed but we continued til her mom like made her go home and she left n all that. So that was the first date. About 3 days later we went for breakfast we ate then walked around some stores. She would like pull me and cling to me so I seriously was thinking that she was into me we kissed in the stores like a bit, good banter, like it was good we kissed like in the same way again then dropped her off home and that was that date number 2. And now I’m a bit stuck because I mean she always would like take a bit to respond to messages. Now we text multiple times everyday but she doesn’t respond like quickly at all. And so I know that’s not reason enough but I got a weird feeling a few nights ago when she like was with her friends like 40 mins away until about 3 am. Like I’m not saying that as if I’m jealous but I thought it was weird that her mom was blowing up her phone when she was out with me at like 9 but 3 am with friends is cool cause when she was with me her mom was calling saying come home your out too late. So I just thought that was strange. And now yesterday we were gonna hang from 9pm to 10:30 pm and in my head I was like wasn’t she jus out til 3 am. So I texted her let’s jus wait til the weekend and then she was like nooo we can hang out tn then we kinda went back and forth not like arguing but more like me saying we can have more time on the weekend so we don’t have to rush because I was kinda over it at that point she was kinda fighting me on it, so then I said something like I mean that’s gonna be really late and nothing around here will be open and she said something along the lines of yea I didn’t think about that we can wait until the weekend. And for me that was a 50/50 shot because if she said like your right we can still hang then ofc I would of but she was like your right nothing will be open so we can jus wait. The thing was about that text it was like part of me wanted to see if she would go out if we weren’t doing anything and I know there’s a chance that maybe she knew that and wanted to do more but maybe when I texted that it made it seem like I didn’t wanna see her. So idk…. But the day we are supposed to see each other is tomorrow ow and she wants to go to some town and walk around stores and get some Italian food. Part of me wants to go and see what happens but at the same time I’m like is she wasting my time? So far today she texted me once this morning and that’s it and it’s almost 10 which I’m not too worried about cause I know she’ll text, tomorrow since she wants to meet at 1 and drive there. In addition in the first date she did offer to pay her half but I did pay, and the second she offered to pay the whole bill but I declined and payed it. Im not an asshole or anything but for me I don’t usually have to put in this much work. And like for me like the really long periods of time she takes to text back jus gives me really mixed signals. So do I go out with her tomorrow or just call it off and cut ties?

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