I (23f) was in a long distance relationship with 34m for about a year and a half. We both had an obsession with each other, then it turned into consistently argued and our relationship turned into an off and on situation. When we were together the only thing I could think about was how I didn’t like our relationship and I wanted it over. When we were apart all I could think about was how I could fix things so we could be happy together. As of now, we haven’t seen each other in over a year; we haven’t been in each other’s lives for ~6 months.

He’s moved on. I email him almost everyday, I write poems about him, I re-read old text, cry over photos. He consumes all my free thoughts. I know he has a new partner and it causes bad thoughts. Thankfully they are very far away and I have no information about her. I’m not sure what would happen if I were to ever see her in person and that scares me. My birthday passed and I unexpectedly received a gift from him in the mail, I can’t throw away the mailing package because it has his name on it. I’ve never been this obsessed with anyone, I feel like he was perfect. Does this surpass normal?

Tldr: my rocky relationship of 1.5 years ended a little over 6 months ago. He’s moved on but I can’t stop thinking about him or try to move. Am I obsessed?