Trigger warning. I (24f) keep overthinking about this and honestly I Have to vent. Over a year ago I became moved to a new city and met my roommate, Jenna (29f). She was more on the wild side and since her and I had been going through break ups, we had fun but we drank a lot and were irresponsible at times.

Then there was a time when she invited me to her hometown along with another friend, Jake(28M). I met her friends and that night we were drinking. Her mother (50’s) is divorced and has a boyfriend (40’s). Everything was fine until out of nowhere he asked if he could hug me. I hugged him, a bit shocked and he said “that felt delicious.”

I was honestly in shocked and planned to tell my roommate later about this. Later on, Jenna and a guy who she started seeing went to sleep. I thought it was crazy how they both went to sleep together in her moms bedroom.

A few mins later it was just the three of us outside. Jenna’s mom, Jenna’s boyfriend and me. The boyfriend kept offering me drinks and I accepted another one. I was drunk but still conscious of what was going on. I declined after he offered another one. He went back inside and that’s when Jenna’s mom said her boyfriend thinks I’m super sexy and that she agrees. She kept asking me to kiss her and I kept rejecting and gave in for a mini second and pulled away, grossed out.

The boyfriend came back and said I was hot and that we were all gonna have sex together one day. I kept rejecting and they honestly wouldn’t let me leave when I’d try to stand up. He asked if I thought he was cute and I’d stay quiet. He took that as a yes. He kept saying he wanted to kiss me and at one point we kissed and I pulled back in disgust. I should have gotten up and meant it and walked away but I didn’t. And I blamed myself for it.

The mother lightly brushed my breast and tried to reach down there and I pushed her away. She then told her boyfriend I said no and to promise I wouldn’t say anything to her daughter. Then she said maybe I could watch them in the living room having sex. I honestly said yes just so that they could let me go back inside and so that I could go to the bedroom and lock myself there with my friend Jake so I could tell him.

We went inside and the boyfriend took his shirt off and I went to the bedroom, he followed me but I closed the door on him and he just kept making frustrated sounds.

Once I was locked in the bedroom I told Jake and he was listening and I told him if he could please hug me. I had to ask. He didn’t even offer to hug me. I didn’t feel supported, after such a traumatic moment. 3 hours later I had to drive him and Jenna back to the city we currently lived. They work remotely so we arrived at Jake’s place and stayed there. I slept for a bit but when I woke up I kept trying to tell Jake I was so nervous and scared and he honestly wasn’t comforting at all and just was acting indifferent and cold. I was suffering so much, feeling the burden of not wanting to tell the daughter of the woman who assaulted me because she made me promise and I didn’t want to ruin their relationship. But she was a monster. She told me she had planned to let her daughter (Jenna) sleep in the bedroom with the guy she was seeing, so that her and her boyfriend could be with me. It was all planned.

I told Jenna. I sobbed. Then Jake proceeded to say that I might have caused the SA’d to happen because I tend to get flirty. The audacity to think that I’d be capable of flirting with Jenna’s MOTHER and mother’s boyfriend! What the actual fuck. I felt betrayed. Shortly after he said a dry apology. So, Jenna was mad and said “I knew my mom was crazy but I didn’t think that crazy.” That same day we went back home and she bought me ramen to apologize for her moms behavior. Flash forward to today, her and her mom are on the phone often as if nothing. I get it, it’s her mom. However, that woman is a monster. I also didn’t like how Jenna would casually bring up her mom during our random conversations, it bothered me and I should have said something about it. Before this all happened, she told me when she was in high school, she had been assaulted by her friends dad. So she should understand how I feel.

I recently moved out due to other things but the relationship with her wasn’t super healthy either and it will always be tainted with what her evil mother did. I legit had a seizure 2 days after it happened, I had broken up in hives too. I currently feel disappointed in Jake as well. He got much closer to her after I introduced them. He invited her to a wedding since he said I wasn’t able to afford it so I didn’t bother to get Invited. He also got her tickets to a museum for her bday and he got me a 50 cent oatmeal cookie for my bday.

Anyways, I wanted to share all of this because it was necessary to share. I blamed myself for not having left sooner from the situation. Also from the house I shared with her. Thank you for listening, I really appreciate it. It’s hard to trust people and honestly don’t trust anyone but people who truly have your back. Thank you. I think the best thing is to cut them off, for a while I was so confused on whether I should. Do they even sound like good friends? Should I cut them off? How can I heal from all of this? I’d honestly like advice on everything and anything. I’ll be super appreciative.