Please allow me to give you a quick run down of my past few relationships to give some of the background that I have dealt with.

The last two women I dated, before I got married, which is really odd, went on a date or two with me actually left in the middle of the date with other guys. I mean sure, they got up to go "powder their nose" and the next thing I saw was them walking out with another guy arm in arm. I actually laugh at the one situation, because the second girl called me a couple weeks later and asked if I was gonna ask her to go out again. I was polite and told her, I really didn't think it was gonna work out and left it at that.

Next, I met my wife and let's just say, maybe I should have ran when I had the chance, but even she told me she was single when I started dating her, only to find out she wasn't and was still married for the entire time I was dating her. That's honestly not the only thing, but we'll just say it was a dumpster fire and I dove right in, which I am fully aware of and completely know why I did.

Now, my current situationship, which I will paraphrase a bit just to save everyone from reading a long droning post. (It got longer than I expected it to, sorry, you don't have to read it.)

TLDR at end:

So, the woman in the post title told me she had a "boyfriend", actually using quotes. I was like ok and was cool with that. Well, after a bit we exchanged social media and actually started hanging out at work. Yes, I know, work is not the place to meet someone, but something just clicked with her. Well, one day, she posted on social media that she was hating dating life and hated being single. I honestly took that as a go for it, so I asked her out and we did go. We talked, drank a bit, played pool for more than a few hours, then she even said she wanted to talk more in my truck. Well, I reached out to touch hold her hand and she pulled away. I thought to myself, that was weird, but ok, so me being me, I pulled back. She texted me that night and told me many times she had a good time and that we should do it again. So, a couple weeks pass and I ask her out again, but this time, she blew me off last minute to go out with her friends, which she did, because on her social media, she posted a video and in the background of one, one of her friends told her to, "Forget about him." I honestly don't think they were talking about me. I'll get back to that in a minute.

So, I took it as she wasn't interested and then she apologized to me and asked if I was free another time. Sure, I went, it was breakfast/lunch, after she came back from church. Again, time flew, she told me she had a fantastic time after and was surprised at how time flies when we are together. She did start using we at this point. Fast forward, I asked her out again, and this time, got ignored. I don't repeat myself, so I was like ok. Anyways, she posted a picture on social of her at this baby shower, that she did tell me she was going to with her friend (Yes, she started using friend instead of boyfriend, which I figured out later.) and it was kinda lovey dovey crap. Now, more than a few times during that weekend, she would text me at weird hours, such as 3:00am in the morning weird. At this point, I realized I might just be the side guy or a guy she is hiding that makes her feel different, given some of the past I know about at this point.

Anyways, stupid me, she asked me out again and I went. This time she offered to drive and I told her I would meet her there. I was expecting her to cancel on me again and even told her that to her face that that was why I didn't want a ride with her. This is the date where she laid it all on me. She said she had a lot of guy friends. I was like ok. That honestly never bothered me. She said I was the only guy that ever saw her as a woman and not some other guy to hang with. I was like ok. Then she dropped the friend on me. She said she was in an open relationship to date other people. Again I was like ok. Again, time flew, we couldn't wait to see each other again and hang out. Now, came the lipstick question, she came into work and found me and asked if I would ever control her lipstick. I said, "Why would I care, it's your lips, not mine." She went on to describe that her "friend" told her not to wear red lipstick at work because it was trashy and men would be attracted to her. At this point, in my mind, it sounds like you are dealing with an "open" relationship on his end and not on your end. Whatever.

Christmas, at this point, we are exchanging social posts, commenting on each others stuff and I'm thinking maybe. She even talked about places she wanted to go but never had anyone that wanted to go with her. I actually listened to something she said awhile ago and bought her a small Christmas gift, not expensive, but good in my opinion, and she met me to allow me to give it to her after work, which is where we shared our first kiss, which she asked for. Well, it was turns out. She texted me on the way home, telling me I was the best listener she's ever met and that she was not expecting anything like that. Ok.

Well, I had to fly back to England for legal stuff and on the way there, I took a picture outside of Boston air port. She replied almost immediately with, "That's where we going" and followed it with "I'm using we, but not like inviting myself." I replied with some stuff, knowing I'm not in her priority list at all, asking if she meant her and her son, her and her friend, her and her brother. She replied no to all, except the friend thing. That she said hell no. Again, we chat or talk almost every day, until she posts some pictures of her and her friend. Then it gets real scarce and real early in the morning or real short texts just one-two worders.

Then there was early January. She has told me all along that she would never allow any other man in her house ever, then she takes a picture with her friend, standing in her house. More lovey dovey post crap with him in every picture.

Current state, she has gotten really cold and distant. She is not wearing lipstick anymore at work, her hair is never done, and she was posting about being single on Valentine's Day.

##TLDR##

So, as far as lie count, we have her saying she is in an open relationship, where she hides people. Why keep saying you're single when you're not? We have the never having a man in her house ever and then having him there. Liking to be the driver because she likes to be in control, but rides as a passenger with her friend. There is quite a few more, but I digress and honestly, I have kinda moved on, even though she keeps staring at me at work now. I was just wondering why women tend to lie so much about everything. Is that a thing? I get not telling everything right off the bat, but why make stuff up in the first place? Why tell exactly the opposite of what you are after or what you are? Maybe I'm just finding the wrong women all these years.