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My (22F) long distance girlfriend had a breakdown and I (21M) can not bring myself to call her back after what she said. What should I do about this?
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My girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now, but through out the relationship we have had issues because we are in a Long Distance relationship I really did care for her and wanted to see her happy. So from time to time I would make time to go and see her for about 4-7 days every few months like 1 to 3 months, but it would be really difficult because I am in school and have a full time job in my home town. Me and her meet when I was attending a different university, but do to some financial circumstances I had to move back home to live with my parents. We often talk about when I am done with school down I will just move back, but through out the relationship she has always had emotional break downs on how I do not love her because I am doing everything I can to move back with her and how I must not want to be with her at all. Through out her days when she is not working herself or going to school she stays in her room and does not talk to anyone but me. Even when she is out she says she refuses to make friends with others unless someone approaches her 1st and that she views her significant other as her everything, she does not talk to her family often . But lately the past couple of months now she started getting mad at me for every little thing I do. If I do not text her 1st before I do anything in my house I "don't love her", if I talk to my siblings or family members while I am on the phone with her I am disrespecting her, if I help other people, it could be family or friends she says I am putting them above her and that I do not love her. Even when I reassure her that is not the case and I am with her on the phone almost 24hrs every day since this relationship started. Then recently she broke down and told me how much she needed me and she wanted me to drop everything I was doing to drive to her because she has been depressed because of the relationship and how she has nobody but me and I make her want to end herself because I am not there with her. (she lives about 3hrs from me) I told her at the moment I would not be able too because my finance would not permit me. (I fell into debt trying to take care of her went she had no job for almost 6 months and exhausted my resources and she knew this because we spoke about it constantly). After I said that she said I was a failure in this relationship and that her ex would've came if she had called him and he was always there for her and the she regrets leaving her ex and that she made a mistake leaving him and before when we got into arguments she would say things like this about how I am a failure, don't know how to be a man in the relationship, and how her ex was more of a man than me, I paid it no mind at the time. but this is the 1st time she has said she regrets leaving her ex especially since he was abusive and cheated on her multiple times so it kind of shocked me to hear her say especially in tears and I was left speechless while she was crying on the phone and they have broken up about a year and some change before I meet her. She hung up and I haven't been able to bring myself to call her back after what she said and honestly I feel so hurt that I just want to leave things like and never speak to her again especially since she know how much I have been working to fix my situation which only got slowed down because she no longer had a job and I have had to take care of her. I just want to leave things as is and don't call her back, but at the same time I want call her and let her know that I do not want to do this anymore, but at that same time my mind do not want to leave her in a mental space where she could potential hurt herself especially since it is her by herself with no one to talk to.

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