irst things first my gf (18F) and I (19M) have been dating for two years. Now please don’t respond with you’re so young and it probably won’t work out anyways. I care deeply about this girl of mine and I want it to workout very badly so I am going to do my best to ensure that I can be my best for her. Anyways onto the issue at hand which I know may result in me being called a huge asshole. So basically my gf whom I love more then anything says “I love you” much more then I would like to be told it or say it back. Not that it entirely matters but it is something like once or twice every hour when we are together. I understand the concept of love languages and hers is definitely words of affirmation while mine leans more towards kind gestures. I think actions mean more then words so I prefer to show my love for her by bringing her food and her favorite Starbucks drink to work on occasion, buying her favorite candy when I see it at the store, spending quality time with her, taking her out to eat, queuing up her favorite songs in the car without her asking, etc. Another thing that matters in the backstory of this but is not an excuse of course is that I do not live in a very loving or affectionate home. It is just my mom and my sister but in my home I don’t really remember ever being told “I love you” from my mom. I only currently tell two ppl including my gf that I love them. I’m simply not very used to it so her saying it all the time can make me feel uncomfortable. Another thing is that when we say it all the time it makes me feel like those three words that have so much value to me mean less when said all the time. I feel they are words to be savored not to be used every half hour at least to me. Lastly and she has even told me this is the case is that she’ll say I love you because she’s seeking assurance from me to say I love you back and prove that I do love her. I always do say it back but this honestly really hurts. I understand she is a self proclaimed over thinker and that can cause doubts, but it makes me feel really bad when she does it. It makes me feel like I’m not good enough at being a boyfriend or at showing my love. Now I probably have a lower I love you saying threshold then most just because of my childhood but still. Anyways we have talked about it and I told her everything I have put in here and she tries to understand but it just makes her really upset in the end and I don’t know what to do about it. She says she understands but she doesn’t think she can change the way she is over this and I totally understand that. If anyone has any ideas of ways we can meet in the middle and compromise I’d love to hear it or if that I’m just an asshole that needs to take what they can get and needs to put my feelings aside on this one.