To preface this. I've been in a relationship with this women for about 4 years, 3 years of it being long distance. I moved across the country to live with her and we had a future planned together. I was going to go to college, had a start date and everything. I have no family out here and the only friends I have are people that she introduced me to as I'm a introvert and mainly spent my time with her. She broke the news to me on New Years that her feelings aren't the same and she felt that way a month prior to her telling me this. That entire month I knew something was up but she wouldn't open up to me about anything. She knows I didn't really do breaks because of my past and my fear of trying to build towards something that'll amount to nothing. She said she still loved me and wants to get those feelings back but she wanted space so she can work on herself and try to get that spark back in the relationship. I'm not saying I'm perfect at all because I was fucking up in the relationship and took things for granted. But I feel it was unfair to hold that in for that long and then break up with me on New Years. All the things that she said were issues that can be resolved and currently are being resolved and not only for her sake but for my own personal growth.

Now where I need help is trying to figure out what to do here. This eats me up alive every waking moment, I can't eat or sleep or enjoy any of my hobbies. While she's laughing and smiling and having a good time. Which I am glad to see her doing good because that's all I want. But idk what to do for myself and where I should be going

with all this said Is it best to respect that space, go through all this shit I'm going through being in this middle ground of unknowing if this relationship is going to work out? Do I ask to start the relationship back up to work together to get that spark back? Or do I rip the bandaid and cut things off for my sake?

I do truly love this women and the plan was in July to move to a different city that was closer to my school. But finding this out just fucked up my entire future and now everything is uncertain.

TLDR: moved across country for gf of 4 years, wants a break to figure herself out and re kindle our relationship and see if she still has the same feelings for me. Do I give her the space even tho it pains me deeply, or do I break things off for my sake even tho I want this to work out?

Ty for reading and letting me rant