First off I’ll start by saying my partner is aware I’m posting this. It’s something they encouraged me to talk with others about. They are talking with other peers as well for advice.

I have never had many friends but since my partner and my own work schedules became more opposing I found myself alone a lot more. It isn’t a bother most of the time but it’s been more difficult with my home life getting weird.

While my partner and I were thinking of people they invited me to a server on discord they have been in. Since beginning of 2023 or so. I noticed a lot of the friends were quite flirty. Calling my partner cute/adorable and other such things. Nothing outside of the small words. I don’t mind any of it.

The issue arouse when I asked “would you let me have similar friends?”, while I was visiting for the holidays. They said no and kinda realized how that isn’t fair. They first insisted on setting stricter boundaries with the friends but I didn’t have an issue with the flirting, it’s the double standards.

As of right now my partner are looking for advice from others on how to fix this double standard situation.

TL;DR - My partners friends flirt a lot and my partner would never let others flirt with me. I don’t have an issue with flirting just don’t appreciate the double standards. How can we overcome this?