We're both 18 and looking to move in together and we've been dating for almost 4 years now. We had to go long distance for a while due to them going to college and us not having the money we needed at the time to afford rent. Since we've gone long distance I've had time to think for myself and what I really want to do with my life and honestly I'm not sure they're in that ideal situation. I would love to move across the country and follow a career in music but they're looking to stay local for at least another six years. I told them about my goals and they seem unwilling to go with me after they finish school, and while I don't blame them at all, I don't want to wait until I'm in my late 20's to actually begin my life. Ive started growing frustrated with them all the time simply because i think id rather be by myself and they've told me that if I would rather do my own thing I absolutely don't have to move in with them. However we've agreed that if I don't move in with them now and decide to go off and do my own thing then we would have to split and I just don't know if I'm willing to drop a four year long relationship over a shot a a career that may or may not work. It just seems incredibly selfish of me. But I've also been feeling that they really don't have the time for a relationship right now. We disagree on things all the time but we never fight and I've never found someone that genuinely listens and cares as much as they do. I love them but because of the distance I feel like I've already pretty much moved on without actually breaking up because I've gotten so used to them just not being here. Would it be better for us to split or should we try to make this work since we'll be seeing each other on a regular basis?