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I could tell something was off with my boyfriend which we've together for a month . Last night because he didn't text me goodnight. He always does without fail. I couldn't sleep all night and he wasn't responding any of my texts. I call him in the morning asking him why is he being so distant and I can feel there's something wrong in the relationship. If he doesn't want to be with me then just break up with me.
He told me he thinks maybe that is best that we do. I start bawling and asking what I did wrong . Apparently I made jokes he didn't like about his speech . He stutters. The joke in question is when I said while we were play fighting are you stuttering because you are scared of me? He is judo trained and can whoop me in a second. I understand now that's extremely unfunny and mean . I had no clue but I never made another joke about it beyond that . I have severe tics and he makes fun of me for that. which is why in my mind this joke was okay. Just poking fun.
I apologized profusely for the jokes in question and told him I never would make them again. I asked him why he never told me he didn't like the jokes. He said because his emotions are not important and he didn't want to censor me . Then he said he feels he can't be himself because I told him when I was with him last . I didn't like him being on the phone to his friend the entire morning barely saying a word before I left his place.
What confuses me is less than a day ago he was begging me to stay with him randomly saying he would never leave me. I had Christmas with his family, I've met his friends. The jokes in question were made days ago . I understand how shitty they were and I'm not trying to justify it. I should have had more emotional intelligence but something isn't adding up. He was fine the entire time.. giving me affection. Telling me how much he loves me . suddenly he seems cold and withdrawn.
He even said I feel like I'm your boyfriend not I am my own person around you. I can't have my own space.Although I have never restricted his phone time ever expect from that one morning in which he was extra quiet. I could feel before I left his becoming distant why I brought it up.
He said he'll talk to me in person about it and that he probably won't break up with me. Just not sure about how he feels.
I understand I've done something horrible. I'm not sure what to do next? Should I work thing's out with him or have I done enough damage?
TDLR: made a stupid joke about my boyfriend stutter and said I wanted more time before I left causing him to dislike me but still love me
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