About 5 days ago, I noticed my gf was being very weird about me using her phone to do random stuff like google something real quick or scroll through ig when I’m bored. Curiosity got the best of me and after she fell asleep I decided to look through her phone. I found messages of her flirting with her coworker and then several messages of her talking to her friends about this man about how he “loves me back this is dangerous.” Although I don’t think anything has happened yet, this is a serious violation of my trust. This is not the first time that there’s been incidents of this manner, and I’ve let them slide because it’s never been explicit cheating, but I told her after the last time it happened if it happens again we’re done.

I know it wasn’t okay to look through her phone, so I don’t know how to proceed from here. The next morning I told her I had a horrible nightmare where she was cheating on me with one of her coworkers, and included some minor details for plausible deniability, and hoping she’d confess. She did not.I love her and I’m really hurt by this and I don’t know where to go from here, do I confront her about it or do I wait for her to say something, nothing is going to happen between them for the next month because we’re going home for winter break.

Tl;dr: looked through my gfs phone when I knew I shouldn’t have. Found her flirting with her coworker, and texting her friends about it. Do I confront her about it or do I wait for her to say something, nothing is going to happen between them for the next month because we’re going home for winter break.