I've been seeing someone for about 6 weeks, not very long I know. That's why I'm here to see what you guys think.

We met online on a site geared more towards poly and kinky. We chatted and hit it off immediately, then we met a few days later. I basically told him what I was looking for was hot sex with someone that was into the same kink as me. Neither of us were looking for anything serious but if it evolved then that's OK too. We had sex on the second date and the chemistry was absolute fire and still is.

At the time I hadn't met anyone else but he disclosed he had someone he saw ocassionally and was chatting with someone else. The first couple weeks I went on a few dates. Nothing came of them.

During this 6 weeks its established we really like eachother. We talk for hours and have amazing sex. We talk about really personal things and get deep. During the day we text and use the heart and kiss emojis (he started that btw). It definitely feels like it's moving in a direction other than FWB. Or...maybe not? This is where I'm stuck and not sure what to do.

I have an anxious attachment style which causes me to...well be a little anxious when I'm unsure in a relationship. This is something I have worked on changing about myself and it is possible. I'm not stuck like this. How it's been manifesting is I feel like I need to know what we're doing. When he's unavailable is he on a date? Do I want to know? This is the anxious attachment freaking out. I should also say that when I am in a secure relationship the anxious attachment is not a big issue. It actually goes away bc I'm not questioning anything.

I know he might prefer an open arrangement which I think I would be ok with as long as I know I am his primary partner and he uses protection with others. I also enjoy my freedom and will want to venture out at some point. Right now what we have is fully satisfying for me.

Is it too soon to discuss this? When is it the appropriate time to talk about where we're at? I'm afraid of ruining the dynamic we have by bringing anything up. I also have mixed feelings about knowing if he has been seeing other people. It's possible I'm not cut out for the poly lifestyle. But I've been in that dynamic before and I was totally comfortable. I'm not usually jealous when I know where I stand. It's the insecurities that bring up the anxious..like duh. I think that it's just so new and good I don't want to share. I'm definitely a brat (IYKYK).

Should I chill or is it time to maybe check in and see where things stand and how we'd like to see this evolve?

If anything doesn't make sense in my rambling please ask.