my partner has been depressed for a while now, about 2-3 months since hes lost his job. i am very sensitive to people’s moods and if someone is in a low mood, I assume that it is my doing and we are in conflict. i didnt realise just how badly this is affecting my attraction until I was tripsitting him today and could see the bits of him that I was missing; the person who would laugh with me about little things, would let me give him affection and was overall just fun to be around.

dont get me wrong, i love him at his lows as much as at his highs, but because im so worried about if i caused issues on most days that i cant feel happy around him as i used to.

how do i cope with this? im already in therapy but i feel like bringing it up will make him feel self conscious and like he has to put on a facade of happiness