But is it just me being insecure???

So for reference, I am a 39 year old male, divorced father of two. She is a 37 year old female divorced mum of two.

That’s what I’m asking myself currently. So backstory for context, I’m a 39 year old divorced dad of two kids with shared custody. I’ve been with my current partner for just over 6 months and for the most part it’s been great. She’s good with the kids, and her family are great.

But, there’s one thing which is a real barrier in our relationship. I’ve made it clear that the main thing I need in a relationship is affection. To feel valued and wanted. It’s not much, but a random touch/hug/kiss, or words of affection makes me feel alive. This is a real challenge for her and at times this has made me feel no more than just a really good friend.

She has admitted to me that providing that is a significant challenge for her, and that won’t change for a long time. She’s worried that she’s not the girl for me.

I’m torn now, right before Christmas and obviously need to reflect on this. Are my needs valid, or am I just having a sook? I know that personally I am (and have always been) insecure and I am not doing the things I need to address this. So should I maintain the relationship, focus on other things and work on myself in the meantime? Or should I call it quits.

Thank you so much for reading and I would greatly appreciate any advice.