For the last few months I’ve been basically taking care of everything and I’m getting close to a breaking point because I feel like this isn’t fair or what I signed up for. He broke his leg in august and had to stop working, which led to him becoming basically homeless/sleeping on his mothers couch because his work provided his accommodation (hotels) He was stressed out and feeling really depressed about it so I got him a bus ticket to me where the plan was for him to stay a week, but things kept happening and he just stayed permanently.

Originally he told me and my roommate he would pay rent, that never happened so now I’m covering both of us for that. He has less money than he’s used to and he asked me to help him with his spending but by the time I actually asked to access his finances (2 days after payday..) he was broke. I’ve been paying for everything. Food, housing and fun. On top of this I’ve been lending him money for his personal other things, and I actually took out a loan for about $2300 for him that he promised he’d pay back on the instalment dates but he’s been unable to so I’ve had to fork out 200$ a month for that, and the money I’ve lent him adds up to about $1200.

I work, I am going to college full time and I come home and cook us a decent dinner most nights. I’ve given up trying to get water out of a stone as far as the money goes rn but I’ve asked him simply because I am cooking, he does the dishes. He basically never does them unless I’m actively watching him do them, and I have to remind him several times.

Usually I’ll make dinner and I ask him to do them after, he often says he’s too tired or anxious that night and we go to bed, I remind him again in the morning to do them before he goes out. I come home, they aren’t done and I beg him to do them so I can make dinner.

Last night I finally snapped and told him he owes me a lot of money, I pay our rent, buy our food and make us dinner after working/schooling for 12 hours. He needs to pull his weight. I feel bad now because he had been telling me earlier that day about how he’s not feeling well and he’s anxious and depressed so I know now is not an acceptable time to yell and snap at him but I’m getting so tired.

I feel like he’s my child sometimes and I hate it, his salary is usually much higher than what I’ve EVER made so me spending so much on him is frustrating cause he’s never spend money on me like this.

How do I get control over this situation? I do not want to break up bc I love him, I also think at the moment I’m holding more resentment than usual because I caught him doing a bunch of really not cool stuff. But he’s working on himself now so I don’t wanna give up right as things are about to get better, but I can’t tell if they’re going to get better or if I’m just holding onto pointless hope