Let me summarize my relationship with my(32f) girlfriend. I (41)mlove her to death we have been together for about a year. We live together and we have had our ups and downs.

I feel like I'm drowning she has a 11 year old daughter that is bad. Not just bad but super bad she was expelled from middle school for attacking three girls and yelling the N word while doing it. When ever I say something she destroys the house. I have to lock my office and put my electronics in a safe because she goes threw my wallet and steals my credit cards. When i mention things to my girlfriend it is an argument. I'm exhausted and I honestly don't know what to do. I don't want to keep living like this. Am I being selfish because I want peace. Or should I be more understanding?